Hi eKa Circle,

Well we are shifting again. Spirit has to flow. Kristen from Nurtured Space and I will attempt to hold unity consciousness discussions on our instagram live platforms. Please join us this week at wednesday 7:30pm aest you can come and go as you please- chat & comment or just observe as you see fit. We are her for honest discussion and solutions collectively.

Our goal is expansion and that includes yours.

So why chat about victim consciousness? Well most that run in a mindset of lack don't realise that they actually add to that with their autopilot thinking. There are it seems different reality streams and you help to co-create them. Victim consciousness however is not something we suddenly acquire. It is a habit of perception that we grow up with and never think to question. Often everyone around this individual is steeped in it and it is taken on at childhood as a normal way of seeing the world; although it doesn't have to be. It is fascinating to me how many versions of one story one can have using a thing called perspective.

& it is possible to see a rainbow in a storm.

There are three roles in the victim triangle (victim, persecutor & rescuer) most of the time. This may sound hopeless however by bringing these thoughts into awareness we can actually break free and step into observer consciousness.

Let's define these two states of consciousness in simple terms:

We are operating out of victim consciousness whenever we see people and situations as the cause of our emotional wellbeing. We think they make us happy or sad, angry or stuck. This is victim consciousness because we allow eternal things the power to our emotional wellbeing or lack thereof. Our lives or joy are not dependant on those external circumstances.

The change we require is a state of consciousness that allows us to step back from our habits and observe and question our own victim thoughts instead. Rather than reacting blindly from unhappy beliefs and observer would rather seek to process the feelings that rise up. Internal as opposed to external.

Many tend to think that their feelings come first and then prompt our thinking but it is in fact the other way for healing. The unhappy thought or belief is triggered then our feelings bounce out of that.

To an outsider, someone with a victim mentality might seem overly dramatic. But this mindset often develops in response to true victimization. It can emerge as a method of coping with abuse or trauma. Facing one negative circumstance after another can make this outcome more likely.

There's no doubt that bad things happen to good people. But the key to not succumbing to victim mentality is to adopt the mentality of a survivor.

In her book What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger, Maxine Schnall compares the two mentalities this way:

  • A victim asks how long it will take to feel good -a survivor decides to feel good even if things are not so great
  • A victim grinds to a halt - a survivor keeps putting one foot in front of the other
  • A victim wallows in self-pity - a survivor comforts others
  • A victim is jealous of someone else's success - a survivor is inspired by it
  • A victim focuses on the pain of loss - a survivor cherishes remembered joy
  • A victim struggles to give and therefore robs themselves- a survivor gives abundantly no conditions
  • A victim seeks retribution - a survivor seeks redemption.
  • And most of all, a victim argues with life - a survivor embraces it.
What causes someone to have a victim mentality?

Past trauma usually; conditioning as others around us operate the same way.

To an outsider, someone with a victim mentality might seem overly dramatic. But this mindset often develops in response to true victimization.

It can emerge as a method of coping with abuse or trauma. Facing one negative circumstance after another can make this outcome more likely.
What are victim mentality symptoms?
Look for these signs in yourself to see if you might have adopted a victim mentality: ‌
  • You blame others for the way your life is‌
  • You truly think life is against you
  • You have trouble coping with problems in your life and feel powerless against them ‌
  • You feel stuck in life and approach things with a negative

So how can one assist another into shifting out of this?

The bottom line is this: doing for others what they can do for themselves is never truly helpful for them or to us. As the Spirit said to me once "are you part of the problem or part of the solution?' That one I really had to ponder...Wisdom allows one to track their own journey instead of trying to pick up all the pieces and therefore releases from the victim triangle and some of you from the rescuing. What a journey.

love & light

M + E

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